From the Gospel of Matthew 6:1 :
Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.
We like to help others. We like to offer our support to the afflicted and on the surface, it’s a good thing. « It’s an expression of my love, » we think. But is that always truly the case? What intentions do we often have behind these acts of assistance and solidarity? « Why do you desire to help so much? » asks Christ.
On the path of self-creation, this is a very noble question that should be regularly asked in order to situate oneself. The world in which we live, indeed, is a playground where each person is both witness to his choices and the consequences that result from them. In fact, that’s the goal of the game: reacting to situations, making choices and then assuming the consequences of those choices, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant! And when one accepts living with the consequences of his choices, he can learn lessons from them and thus grow in love. But as we know, it is quite difficult for humans to see their neighbor suffer without doing anything… Even if they must endure their punishment or face repercussions from their decisions, should we abandon them? What should be done? To sympathize… but what does this word mean? To suffer in their place, accompany them in suffering or find ways to lessen or prevent their suffering?
When one decides to help someone, there are generally three reasons: (1) not wanting to be affected by their suffering; (2) wanting to appear powerful and wise; or (3) it can be a manifestation of pure love and compassion… Obviously, these different reasons appear so blurry and subtle in the mind that it hardly has the light to discern. Everything is put under the guise of love, even if it’s the ego shining through! That’s why the Master advises us to be cautious: every person must evolve; and for that, he must change. Change the energy he emits; change his perception of life; change his way of living. However, we can never change others; but trials and experiences in life can. So, the first thing to do is take care of changing ourselves by learning how to welcome God’s love into our hearts. Then, we will have enough light to understand that those who suffer need to go through such hardships in order to grow. And that all we have to do is be there for them, support them through their ordeal while enlightening them about the true reasons behind such afflictions, advising them on taking advantage of it as an opportunity for readjustment in order to purify their lives. That is true love. That is true compassion – being a safe haven for those who are committed on the path of their own transformation.